Some of my hair observations as my 2nd year relaxer-free hair anniversary loometh near.
* I don't care. Well not completely true. I don't care as much. Maybe I should should care more... but I don't. See it's like this: there was a time that I would freak out if my hair was frizzing out. These were in the Days of Relaxers and today would've been a freak out day- quite unseasonably warm at 75 degrees and foggy.
And now - I mean, I don't love frizz. Frankly, I strongly DESPISE humidity. Like, with a passion. But it's different now. There's an acceptance that no, I do not have naturally straight hair and yes, moisture in the air is undoubtedly going to cause my hair's cuticles to swell soooo.... Big Whoop. Deal With It!
HA! About two weeks ago on a Sunday morn, I was kinda in a rush so I quickly twisted two flat twists at the front. Oh, and it was a rainy day. Minor detail. ;)
Came home for my blessed Sunday Afternoon Nap and what do ya know? My twists had bloomed into two puffy butterfly wings thanks to the weather . All I could do was snicker at my reflection and wonder if the ladies at church pondered "why would she come to church like that?". Ah well. What are ya gonna do?
* Hair is a conversation starter. I might have mentioned that I've never been one to "talk hair". Never was all that interesting to me. And now, I don't really enjoy it when the other party's "hair talk" is basically them trashing their hair or someone else's since it's not stick straight enough. *yawn*
But yeah, it's odd because my hair starts conversations. Very weird and humorous.
For example- oh and quick disclaimer: this person is rather dramatic. I guess that's why this sticks out in my mind so distinctly.
We hadn't seen each other in about a year. So basically, we're sitting and chatting about something that I can't recall and then she blurts/borderline-screams out of the blue - "I CAN'T GO NATURAL!" I'm like, "Huh? Wha?" And she repeats - "I CAN'T GO NATURAL!"
Um, seriously? No one asked if she could or couldn't. Then she went on a long explanation why she couldn't, blah blah blah. Like I said, an extreme example but I'm usually caught off guard every time the conversation comes up.
* Never ceases to amaze me how many textures are coming out of my head. Fact: the hair above my ears is totally different to the hair at the crown of my head which is quite different to the hair at the nape of my neck. Super tight hair to springy curls to practically wavy hair. The things you learn....
* I'm slowly but surely trying more styles but I'm not that creative and still desire more length to do more! I made giant leaps and bounds when I tried twists for a few days, first time ever. Time consuming to do- yes. But it was cool since I could leave it up and not have to mess with them very much at all. Plus, my hair stayed super moisturized. And when I loosened the twists, I liked the waviness! Definitely need to redo this soon!
* So often, women say how they'd want little girls but don't want to have to do THAT HAIR (-OR- don't want any girls at all because of this). I was one of the former group but you guys, I've changed my tune.
Now I want little girls (or one girl, singular) so I can teach her to love the hair that God gave her and that she has no reason to be ashamed. I don't want her to have to wallow through all of the years of negativity and frustration like I did. I want her to grasp this scripture and truly believe it-
I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. Psalm 139: 14 KJV
and in a different translation....
Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous--how well I know it. Psalm 139: 14 NLT
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